Wednesday, October 30, 2013

The Right Moment

We spend so much of our time waiting. Waiting on line, waiting for the bus, waiting for appointments. 

Waiting for the phone to ring. 

There's a purpose for the wait. We are meant to be exactly here, at exactly this moment. Waiting. Making the most of this moment, giving it meaning.

My daughter is engaged.

So many people are taking credit for making this happen. They davened, and arranged for forty women to take challah, and went to the Kosel for forty days, and visited the Zhviller Rebbe's kever on Monday and Thursday and Monday. I am grateful for all of it. I am grateful to everyone who thought of her and cared about her. Every tefillah helped. But, ultimately, it happened at the moment it was meant to happen. 

She could have been married a year ago, some people said. Maybe even two or three years ago. If the shadchan had been more aggressive...if his parents had considered it when it was first suggested...if things would have moved faster... But she couldn't have. It wasn't the right moment. The person you marry is bashert, but so is the moment. This is her moment.   

The wait was frustrating, sometimes. But while she waited, she lived fully. She grew, and matured, and blossomed. And I can say now that I am so grateful she didn't get married four or five years ago. I'm even grateful she didn't get married a year ago. She spent those years becoming the beautiful person she is today. She is ready now for this next stage in her life. 

At exactly the right moment. 


  1. Mazel tov!

    I also firmly believe that if some couples met earlier, they would not have married. Because it just wasn't time. People are not cardboard cutouts; they change and learn with time.

  2. Mazel tov!! This is so exciting!

    I completely agree that everything has its right time and it won't happen a second before it's meant to be. I think one of the hardest parts of being single is not knowing if the "right time" will ever come... I'm so happy that for your daughter it did.

  3. Wow...woah...MAZEL TOV!!

    This is such good message. Everything has the proper time. Every yeshuah comes at the time Hashem meant for it to happen-and until then we need to use the waiting time to develop into the beautiful person we are meant to become. Waiting is hard...but when we fill in the gaps with growth and change, we can look back and be happy...and almost grateful...that we had that time (sometimes :)).

  4. Mazal Tov!!!! So happy to hear!!

    Like my grandmother always says "Right one, Right time, Right place" (in a thick Hungarian accent, of course for character)

  5. Your daughter is so lucky. I guess none of us get to escape having to change. She got to do it while she was still single. Some people get married young and don't have a chance to mature and become that person. They have to do it after they are married. And that can be hard, really hard. This post makes me wonder if things would have been different if I hadn't gotten married so young. Would I have become stronger-while I was still single-instead of having to do all the work after I got married? point in thinking such thoughts now. Hashem has his plans. :)

    Oh...mazal tov!!!

  6. mazel tov!
    great news!
    been there, done that, I TOTALLY get what your saying. And the enormous overwhelming relief that Hashem did listen to all the tefilos..